Over a year ago, I devoted three posts to the subject of Patriarchy. The first one was published after digesting the red pill, but before “coming out” with it, meaning I tried to sanitize the post and make it as easy to swallow as possible. Then, I wrote the second – thanks to the inspiration of Janet Bloomfield, aka judgybitch – and ended with the third while I still had some thoughts floating in my head on the subject.
I never found the motivation to articulate them. Until now.
Last week, I enjoyed a few thousand page views from someone linking the second part of the series, entitled Patriarchy Pt. 2: What if Men Disappeared?, to reddit. I’m flattered they’d do so. I think the article is pretty sound. In fact, if you’ve discovered my site within the last year then you might not be familiar with them. I still think they’re worth the read. Just keep in mind that my writing style at the time was to sugarcoat the red pill.
But I still think there is one more aspect to Patriarchy that doesn’t get talked about much, and never ever discussed by feminists. It can be easily deduced after reading the manosphere and groking woman’s hypergamy.
It is my belief that, all things being “equal” between men and women like life choices, ability, opportunity, conditioning, etc., there will still be a Patriarchy. Actually, I believe there will always be a Patriarchy until the end of time or segregation between the sexes. There may be experimental attempts at other models, but they will ultimately fail in the long run. And it’s not up to me to decide this. It is up to women.
Truly, I believe that women, and only women, are one animating force that gives rise to Patriarchy, for it is what they truly want.
Hypergamy is the essence of womanhood. It is the instinct that sets all other psychological functioning into a semi-ordered operating system. It tells her that her time and her eggs are valuable, yet vulnerable, therefore she must maximize the benefits gained while mitigating the costs. It is why women test men so thoroughly before they agree to a relationship, and why men try so hard to pass those tests. It is why they second-guess their relationships, poking for holes and ensuring that she still has the best deal she can find. It is why they want gold, and jewels, and (most importantly) a man of high status to attach herself to.
To put it simply: women are looking up for their men, not down. She doesn’t want a stone to burden her, but a set wings to lift her higher. That is her ultimate goal in life, and if not a goal then the ultimate fantasy (cough Fifty Shades cough).
So which social order do you think satisfies this impulse?
Patriarchy is the social order which ensures men stay at the top of society to run the businesses, government, and families. While this may seem (at least at first glance) to deny women what they want – opportunity, freedom, etc. – Patriarchy also ensures that women can look up and have countless options of men available to pull her into the higher strata. In this world, alpha males are abundant, meaning the vast majority of men are more attractive than an equal or lessor male. There is no need for a woman to climb the mountain herself, for a man is able and willing to lift her up. In the end, this fulfills her hypergamy, her fantasy, her inner cavewoman, etc. It is why grandma stayed married for fifty years. Even working at the saw mill cast grandpa as Hercules.
This is the true engine that drives Patriarchy. Women want men at the top because they want their lovers to come from the top, and no amount of egalitarian social engineering will change their innate preferences.
But before I bury this horse, let’s have a few thought experiments, holding up Patriarchy to Matriarchy or Equality.
Matriarchy is the grand vision for many of the world’s radical feminists. However, women have a tendency to ruin their own good time by not looking all the way forward. A great tangential example by heartiste:
“Yes, women want to achieve maximum gravitational comfort within relationships, but women are also strangely their own worst enemies in their quest for eternal love and happiness. Women will work instinctively and incessantly toward neutering and domesticating boyfriends and enlarging their LTR comfort zone until, perplexed and full of resentment, they have lost all desire for their men.”
Own worst enemies indeed. In this same sense, women want to achieve all that men have achieved, working hard to acquire those degrees and corner offices and fancy suits and bloated paychecks. However, once they succeed they inevitably look around and yell, “where are all the men!?” The men are there… in the mailroom, and because they’re in the mailroom those men are invisible. Every man who is beneath her simply ceases to exist in any capacity beyond human-shaped robot cleaning her drain or putting down her new hardwood floors. Women don’t want to look down and settle for a man in a relatively lessor position. They don’t want a man to pull her down, as dictated by her hypergamy.
This means that Matriarchy is actually anathema to a woman’s instinctual drive. She may be a high-powered CEO, or even the president, but every time she comes home she’ll look at her husband and feel disgust, and she won’t conceptualize why.
Equality is better, but only marginally better, and it certainly isn’t optimal. A woman’s gaze can come down to the horizon, allowing many women to settle for guys with equal or similar income/status levels, but settling isn’t optimizing by definition. In an equal societal arrangement, women are still looking up, as are the women below her, and above her. The only difference between this and total Patriarchy is that the pool of men at the top has now shrunk and the pool of female competition has increased. It’s not as bad as Matriarchy, where the vast majority of men become invisible (or valued only as fuck toys), but you instead have a situation where the few remaining men at the top have the lion’s share of the lionesses while half of the men below the average are once again invisible. Obviously, this will cause problems.
In my view, the only social structure that can satisfy both ends of the equation – a woman’s innate drive for status and a man’s desire for women – is to ensure that men are at the top. That doesn’t mean that women have to be oppressed or mistreated, but it still means Patriarchy, basically.
Of course, if you truly want to defeat Patriarchy, all you have to do is rewrite the female condition. Shouldn’t be hard, right?