There Can Only Be So Many Self-help Books. Focus on Fiction.

I started a new job a week ago, and this adjustment period has left me with a lack of inspiration to write these blog posts. My fiction, however, is still going strong  – about 1000 words a day.

 

This has made me question what to do with the blog, as writer’s block often does. It’s a temporary thing and I know I will find the motivation later. However, I also wonder about the Manosphere, the reactosphere, the unaffiliated redpill spheres in general, because right now is my ~5th year observing this side of the internet, and rarely does a new and novel piece of information hit my brain. I’m at the point where learning had ceased, and I feel as if I’m retaking the course, over and over

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Personally, I don’t like to regurgitate everything I read in the Manosphere because I don’t like repeating old ideas. When I compose a post here, I want to make it unique and add some information to the pool of knowledge, trying to be a producer of ideas, not merely a consumer of them. But when the source knowledge has run out, or the pool of knowledge becomes filled to the brim, then it means I need to focus somewhere else.

 

I understand that there will always be new men awakening, bringing their stories and discussions with them from the blue pill world, and there will always be differing perspectives in which to interpret the red pill. The political side of the pill will always have something to talk about, as the west further descends into the dark. So the discussions we have and the ideas we share will never truly die.

 

But things like masculinity, self-improvement, seduction, these bits of information aren’t endless. Game wisdom may be confirmed in countless examples but the wisdom itself isn’t infinite. There is a point when you learn all there is to learn about a subject, and are unable to learn more. At that point, you have to move on.

 

Personally, I think we’ve learned all we can about concepts like hypergamy. Yeah, there are new and different ways to articulate it, but it’s an old and well-worn road. Same goes for male inequality, Alpha fucks Beta bucks, Feminism, and the Commandments of Poon. The rules of the game have already been learned. Now we’re just sharing tactics, but talking tactics all the time can also just be just a retread.

 

At this point, there is rarely anything new I can find in the Manosphere. But is that a problem? Does it mean the Manosphere is tapped out? I don’t think so.

 

Keep in mind, an engine’s RPMs can slow as it’s about to stall, but they also can slow when shifting into a higher gear. Just because the concepts are well known doesn’t mean we have to give up talking about them in a different form.

 

Self-help books can eventually grow stale because they sell recycled information, but fiction can be sculpted in many different ways, far beyond nonfiction, for plotline, characters, and a story’s imagery can take on nearly infinite forms. The realm of fiction allows writers, even Manosphere writers, especially Manosphere writers, a great degree of freedom in crafting their writing, as well as the great challenge in making it good.

 

The Manosphere has acted as the internet’s unofficial psychology and sociology departments. It is here where men learn about themselves as men, and where they learn about the workings of women. What other primer do you need to create complex characters? The ‘sphere has shown us the world outside the cubicle, or our former nerd dens, giving us the necessary inspiration for deep settings and compelling plot points. That’s a great leap forward compared to the sci-fi and fantasy writers that base their stories off a campaign of Dungeons and Dragons.

 

I realize that not many people are so cozy with the concept of writing fiction. Aaron Clarey, Captain Capitalism, is one such person who is good at writing nonfiction, but strongly prefers not to write fiction, and that’s okay. However, for the Manosphere writer who is like me, who has the willingness to write but finds they’re fresh out of topics, perhaps they should try writing from a different angle.

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Men’s Health: Water, Chlorine, and Used Birth Control

Many people don’t think about their water quality because they live in the first world and trust that the local municipalities take care of everything, and, to be fair, city water does a good job with what they have. However, the guys at the local water treatment plant simply can’t magically transmute things out of your water and make it completely 100% pure. For men, things like birth control and chlorine in your water are especially disconcerting.

 

Birth Control and Pharmaceuticals

 

So where does the aspirin you took go after it metabolizes in your body? It gets pissed out. Where does it go from there? Back to the water treatment plant so it can be released back into the environment or, in some cases, recycled into city/irrigation water. However, even after treatment, the pharmaceuticals stay in the water, thus allowing them to continue downstream where they can end in another city’s tap.

 

Such compounds are not organic contaminants, so treatment measures like chlorine, iodine, ozone, UV light or hydrogen peroxide simply do nothing to remove them. They’re too small for standard filters, and large-scale reverse osmosis treatment – which would reduce them but not remove them completely – is far too expensive for most cities.

 

Imagine the numbers of women who use birth control, or how many people use heart medication, or antidepressants. All of that remains in the water supply. There has been evidence of fish being feminized by birth control and male frogs producing female-only proteins thanks to hormone imbalances caused by pharmaceutical waste.

 

The fact is that we know our drugs remain in the water supply. The fact is these drugs harm sensitive species in the natural environment, like fish and amphibians. What isn’t well known, however, is the effect on human beings.

 

One thing to keep in mind is that, while fish and amphibians are sensitive to these drugs, they also live much shorter lifespans. Their deformations are NOT due to prolonged and continued exposure over an extended lifetime. Humans have a much higher resistance to small doses of these drugs, but we are being exposed to these tiny concentrations over many years, in utero, as babies, and as children. That makes problems for researchers, in that this phenomenon is incredibly hard to study when we’re talking timescales of lifetimes. The only answer they’ve been able to come up with is: “we don’t know.”

 

Interactions of these small trace drugs in the water supply with other prescriptions and substances like alcohol mean that the question of how harmful these pharmaceutical leftovers are is left as a big question mark.

 

But if you’re a man who avoids soy and sugar because of the estrogen-mimicking effects, then perhaps you should turn an eye to your tap water as well. Here’s what you need to find out:

  1. Does your city have regular reports of pharmaceuticals in drinking water? (though such information might be protected under post 9-11 security laws)
  2. Look at your region. Are you downstream from a major metro area? If so, then you’re drinking trace pharmaceutical waste (most people are).
  3. Also find out your city “recycles” its sewage into drinkable water, and how much, and where the water goes to. Some cities take sewer water, sanitize it, and use it for irrigation, in which case it doesn’t go back into human mouths (but the contaminated water still heads downstream). Some cities do treat their sewer water back into drinking water if their initial source is too small, in which case you’re drinking higher trace pharmaceuticals.

 

This is also a growing problem. More women use birth control compared to 20 or 30 years ago. More people are on antidepressants, ADD medication and other mood-altering drugs than they were before. With the increase in diagnosis and prescription, so also increases contamination of water.

 

One of my fears as a guy who has a BS in psych, as well as a water treatment certification, is that the pharmaceutical waste in the water will cause psychological issues, which causes people to get prescribed more medication, which increases the waste in the water supply, causing more to get put on drugs.

 

If you think being on a well makes you safe, then you need to consider a few things:

  1. If you’re around farms, understand that livestock are given antibiotics and growth hormones. All those things get excreted and enter the water tables all the same.
  2. How deep your well is dug? The deeper it is, the longer it takes surface water to reach the aquifer. We’re talking timescales of hundreds of years for extremely deep wells.
  3. Where does the ground water flow? If you’re downstream from those farms and cities, then a well still might not protect you.

 

There are only two relatively safe places to get good drinking water in the United States: Hawaii and Colorado. These two are considered headwater states – states in which 100% of their water source falls as rain or snow inside the state. They are water producers, while every other state gets a fraction of their water second-hand from another state.

 

So what can you do?

 

The good news is you don’t have to worry too much about bathing in it, only drinking it.

 

The bad news is that the only way to remove 100% of all contaminants in water, including pharmaceuticals, are certain methods of distillation. However, doctors tell you not to drink distilled water because it contains no minerals, and will thus leech minerals out of your body. Distillation is usually reserved for people with kidney or other health problems and so it’s likely not a good option for your typical healthy guy.

 

The only other way is to by a reverse osmosis filter, which uses a permeable membrane to separate contaminants into product water and waste water through a process of, you guessed it, reverse osmosis. It doesn’t remove all contaminants, instead reducing them to ~10% of what they were. 100 TDS (total dissolved solids) is turned into 10, depending on the brand of RO. I’m not a sellout so I have no particular brand to recommend.

 

In my opinion, guys on the east coast, west coast, and southeastern US have more to be concerned about because of the sheer amount of rivers, lakes and creeks channeling agricultural runoff and city waste downstream, but do your research beforehand to know what you’re getting into, or if it’s even a concern for you.

 

But there is another water treatment concern that affects everyone and, in my opinion, more of an issue. Fortunately it’s easier to treat.

 

Chlorine

 

Chlorine is the preferred method in the United States for killing and/or neutralizing all sorts of nasty microbes. It’s incredibly affective at doing so, and in the vast majority of cases it’s more beneficial to drink and bathe in chlorinated water than non-sanitized water. Most cities keep their concentrations low enough so that it cannot be smelled or tasted, though other cities can have concentrations as high as a swimming pool.

 

The negative health effects of chlorine usually involve irritation of skin, eyes and lungs, but again that’s for higher concentrations and usually a concern for swimmers.

 

The problem, as with the pharmaceuticals above, is the question of low, constant exposure to chlorine. Low doses of chlorine don’t cause irritation unless you’re particularly sensitive, but, and this is important for guys, it can cause heart problems.

 

When dairy farmers first started using chlorine as a way to sanitize their pales and milk pumps, they found that, after a chlorine flush, a yellow film would be left behind along the walls of the pipes. After examination, it was found that chlorine caused the fat in the milk to congeal, and it is the same reason why those farmers instead use hydrogen peroxide today.

 

Not only does this affect pipes and pumps, but it also affects the natural (and sometimes unnatural) cholesterol, or fat, in body’s internal pipelines: veins and arteries.

 

To put it simply, chlorine is enters our bodies mostly through skin absorption it in the shower, for a single shower causes more chlorine to enter your body than any amount you could drink. Chlorine than causes the natural cholesterol in our circulatory system to slowly congeal, causing arterial plaques, leading to heart disease.

 

The US is big on chlorination, and simultaneously big on heart disease. Through there are many other factors leading to America’s epidemic of heart disease, chlorine is not off the hook.

 

“A physician team led by William F. Enos autopsied 300 GIs who had died in battle in the Korean War. These men, who had passed induction examination as healthy, averaged 22.1 years of age. To their shock and amazement, in 77 percent of the 300 the pathologists found “gross evidence of arteriosclerosis in the coronary arteries.” In several, one or more heart arteries were partly or completely occluded.

 

The water that the American soldiers had to drink in Korea was so heavily chlorinated that many could hardly tolerate it. In Vietnam, too, autopsies of American solders found heart artery damage. Again, water supplied to them had been heavily chlorinated. Did much of the soldiers’ arterial damage develop not gradually but quickly as in Dr. Price’s cockerels? The truth–slow or rapid development of clogging–may never be known. Interestingly, from 1950 to 1965 while heart attacks increased, on a population level arterial lesions did not increase; the major growth was in clotting.”

 

It’s a cliche to say X causes cancer, but, might as well cross this box off as well.

 

“Studies in Belgium have related development of deadly malignant melanoma to consumption of chlorinated water. Drinking and swimming in chlorinated water can cause melanoma. Sodium hypochlorite, used in chlorination of water for swimming pools, is mutagenic in the Ames test and other mutagenicity tests. Redheads and blonds are disproportionately melanoma-prone; their skin contains a relative excess of pheomelanins compared to darker people. Franz Rampen of the Netherlands reports worldwide pollution of rivers and oceans and chlorination of swimming pool water have led to an increase in melanoma.

Long-term risks of consuming chlorinated water include excessive free radical formation, which accelerates aging, increases vulnerability to genetic mutation and cancer development, hinders cholesterol metabolism, and promotes hardening of arteries.”

 

Why does the US use chlorine? Because we have tons of it and nothing better to do with it, and it makes a good sanitizer. Other countries use hydrogen peroxide, like if you’re in Europe, or ozone.

 

So be smart. You can get a chlorine test from any pool supply store and see for yourself. Concentrations of chlorine at or under .5 ppm are negligible (in my own personal opinion). You can either take it or leave it, or simply get an activated-carbon showerhead to take it out. However, if you’re above 1.0 ppm chlorine, and I have seen concentrations as high as 3.0 ppm coming out of a city tap (and that’s swimming pool levels), then you really ought to consider installing a household dechlorinator.

 

Dechlorinators are basically giant charcoal filters filled with granulated carbon, and they come in a variety of types. Large tanks last longer, about 2-10 years depending on chlorine levels, water consumption, and brand – and you must always take the brand’s specifications into account. I’ve seen lessor brands only reduce chlorine by half and need a bedding change every two years, while others will neutralize it to undetectable levels and need a bedding change every ten years. Dechlorinators are relatively cheap already, so splurging for a good brand isn’t a bad investment.

 

Alternatively, you can get showerhead dechlorinators from your local hippie vitamin shop, but their concentrations of carbon are small and the short exposure time for neutralization to take place means they only reduce, not eliminate, chlorine, and need frequent changing when the carbon is used up. So, if you’ve got the room and you own your home, go for a whole house dechlorinator.

 

Much of my advice will depend on you doing some legwork to test your own water and do your own research, but it is something I highly recommend. I knew nothing about water treatment and cared not to, at least until I got a job in the industry. After learning a bit more, I’ve come to realize that water quality is a huge issue for municipalities and the EPA. In a few years, water rights will become a larger issue as demand increases and city budgets wane. It is then up to you, the consumer, to take the initiative and follow some measures for yourself.

 

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So You Want to Join the Trades? Here’s Something to Consider

I applaud anyone who decides to join the trades, whether it’s mason, plumber, electrician, welder, etc. Working with your hands is good work, masculine work; it is work that makes you strong, tough, and fosters mental problem solving. It bestows upon you the skill and thus the confidence of being able to manipulate the world around you, removing your dependence on others. There’s something rewarding with looking at your creation or repair, knowing that you did it yourself.

 

The trades are also financially viable in this day and age where the rest of our peers are stuck in retail or unemployed. And while media and tech may come and go, there will always be a need for the trades.

 

While I strongly advocate for the trades, I must also caution that you do it right. Don’t make the mistakes that I made.

 

I have worked two trade-like jobs. I say trade-like because they require manual aptitude, a tool kit, and demand physical work, but they weren’t actual trades..

 

One job was for a water treatment company as an equipment installer and repairman. I learned a ton about plumbing and the engineering behind our particular systems, but the one major catch was that I wasn’t a plumber. I worked like a plumber. I needed to know many of their skills and I did a great deal of what they do. However, I was never a bona fide plumber, thus never earning a plumber’s salary.

 

My other job was in HVAC, which you would think involves repairing and installing furnaces and air conditioners. Nope. My job entailed “furnace and duct restoration”, which was just a fancy way of saying a duct cleaner. There were some technical aspects of the job, for sure, but, just how I wasn’t an actual plumber with the water treatment company, I was not a certified HVAC technician with this one. I didn’t get paid like an HVAC technician.

 

The reason for this is because I never went to school for the trades; I went to school for psychology. These two aforementioned jobs were more or less entry level, and didn’t require the schooling or apprenticeship that the other trades do. The two companies I worked for hired any competent man off the streets who was willing to learn a little and work a lot. These jobs (because they’re not careers) weren’t a path to a master craftsmen or tradesmen. You wouldn’t be able to become an independent contractor or open your own business with the training they give me. Even though these jobs seem trades-y, they’re not.

 

If you are interested in going into the trades then this is something you need to consider. Beware of jobs labeled “service tech”. All service techs do is some installation and repair, or some trades-related thing. But mostly the employer gives you specialized training needed to do a specific job and that’s it. There is no career path toward a master craftsman or tradesman. About the only thing you could put on your resume is “general mechanical ability”.

 

For example, my boss at the water treatment company was a welder before he moved into water treatment. He changed jobs because the pay was better, at the time. But now that the economy is just trudging along, he is struggling to make ends meet. He could either go back to welding, though he’s been out of the loop for several years, or he can stick it out as a lead service tech. He can’t go any higher than where he is now in water treatment, and the training was too specialized to take him anywhere else. If he wanted to be a plumber, he would still need to become an apprentice, go to school and work under a master, despite all these years of plumbing experience.

 

So don’t get stuck in a cul-de-sac. Getting the right experience in the trades requires the right schooling. If your goal is to become a tradesman then you need to go to a trade school, or have a master tradesmen take you under his wing as an apprentice. Do not take an entry level job, or a job looking for “hard working guys willing to learn” because, unless you’re getting an actual education, it won’t develop into a real, working trade. You’ll just be a service tech.

Women Desire What They Lack

Though some women will fight the truth, the harsh reality is that women are weaker than men. Weaker doesn’t necessarily mean inferior. Weaker doesn’t mean that women don’t possess other strengths. It means that women come up short in the physical aspects where men excel.

 

Even the world’s strongest woman will be beaten by the world’s strongest man, or even the world’s 10 strongest men (maybe even the top 100 men). The average man beats the average woman. And the below average man still beats the below average woman. When comparing apples to apples, gap here is undeniable, and though it doesn’t seem very significant, it is.

 

Knowing this, put yourself in a woman’s shoes. If a tire goes flat and needs to be replaced at the side of the road, you are no longer lifting a 25 pound doughnut out of the back; as a woman you are lifting the equivalent of a 30 or 40 pound tire. Similarly, groceries are heavier. Tools are heavier. It is almost as if someone has turned up the gravity across the whole planet. We men take our strength for granted, and it is women who know, at least at an unconscious level, that they fall behind every time they hand us a jar.

 

So ask yourself this: if you are in a state of physical weakness, what would you desire in your mate? Then ask what do women desire in their mate? The answer is the same.

 

Strength.

 

Strength is men’s specialty; it is our purpose, not just culturally but also genetically. If a man is not strong enough to lift that 25 pound doughnut, and she’s not strong enough either, then you both have become stranded, only she’s the one with the excuse.

 

This is why you should work on your body. You don’t have to win any lifting contests, but you should have enough excess power to assist those closest to you.

 

A strong body is a given, and it’s the first place a young man goes when he wants to increase his value. This is a great start, but it is only a start, and the consensus of the manosphere holds physique as a secondary, even a tertiary, to the aspects of mind. A guy stacked can still fail with women if his mind – emotions and cognitions – are also not up to par.

 

Emotional Strength:

 

Get back in the mind of a woman for a second. Not only is the world heavier, but every person around you is now stronger, maybe doubly so depending on who you are. While you might be able to push off an attacker and run as a man, as a woman you’re almost entirely at their mercy (unless you’ve taken it upon yourself to actively work to close the gap). To women, the world is a more dangerous place, and it always has been, ever since the mastodons.

 

What is plentiful in a dangerous world? Fear. A woman may not constantly be in fear, but the fear response when trouble does arise is observably more extreme in women because the antagonists are more powerful.

 

Just as a person without strength desires strength in their partner, so does a woman with fear desires a man who lacks fear.

 

What is it called when someone lacks fear?

 

Courage.

 

If there is one emotion that must be checked in the mind of a man it is fear. Fear is useful as a limiter, a governor, but it is also a primitive emotion that can overreact. Fear only needs to be right the one time when it truly matters despite a track record of a thousand false alarms. When a man legitimately fears something, you know the gates of hell are about to break loose. When a man fears not, it calms everyone around him, including her.

 

For a woman seeks an excuse to discard her mental burdens, and a man without fear will give her that bubble of calm in a chaotic world. When something goes wrong, she can look to him and see that, despite the circumstances, at least he will have it all under control.

 

And for you, reducing your fear will enable you to walk into the unknown while scores of other men stay behind. It will let you go and do amazing things you never thought possible. It will broaden your horizons and allow you to scale challenges that would turn away others.

 

If you hold onto fear too strongly you let the thousand false alarms rule your life. While some people say anger should be capped above fear, I believe it is the opposite. Fear and anger are both useful in some cases and unnecessary in others, but it is fear that stops us from acting when we need to, while anger allows us to act when we must. Choose to quell fear over anger.

 

Cognitive Strength:

 

Go back into the shoes of a woman. The world is stronger than her and thus more able to overpower her. This comes with a greater fear of the world. However, there’s no escaping the world we live in. You may ease your fear because you’ve found somewhere safe and comfortable, but how do you know it’s really, truly safe?

 

What follows from fear, even when living in security, is doubt. Though she may be comfortable for now, a woman wonders how long it will last. How strong is her little castle? Is it really that safe? Is there a better fortress somewhere else, or with someone else?

 

Doubt causes the mind to second-guess its decisions, and there is no greater madness than constant doubt. It strips you of the ability to make decisions, it nullifies your control, because what good is the freedom of choice when you’re always unsure of any outcome?

 

So answer these three questions:

 

What does someone with doubt desire most in their mate?

 

What do women want more consistently in their men than any other trait?

 

What IS the absence of doubt?

 

The answer to all three is: confidence.

 

Almost every survey of what women find attractive will have confidence somewhere at the top. Even those not of the red pill will know this, but few will actually recognize it let alone properly articulate it.

 

Confidence isn’t simply swagger. Confidence is the lack of doubt, and attaining that is a difficult task, because are we ever completely sure of our actions? Well, you are if you know precisely what you’re doing. Ah, there’s a light in the darkness.

 

Confidence comes when you’ve done something over and over to the point that you’ve mastered it. An expert mountain climber will judge a cliff’s viability and will come to a confident conclusion, based on his collected experience, that it is either worth climbing or not. He doesn’t need to fluff or bluff, generate excuses or belittle those around him. He only needs to divine an answer from his mastery, experience and intellect. It is at that point when the mannerisms of confidence will flow naturally.

 

The best way to gain overall confidence is to do a lot of things. Blow past the fear you feel when encountering something new and dip a hand or foot into any activity which will expand your knowledge and expertise. While it seems simple, it actually takes a long time and many years to develop true confidence.

 

It is intellectual by being able to learn many things. It is physical by being able to perform up to mastery. It is emotional to work through the fear that prevents you from trying.

 

You will know it when you find it. Once you stop asking yourself: can I do this? And instead ask, how long will it take? You will have shown that attaining mastery isn’t a question anymore, it’s a given, only in time.

 

Remember the virtues:

 

When a sword is first smithed, it is delicate and dull. A process knowing as quenching hardens the metal, allowing it to keep its edge, however the process also makes it brittle, like glass. Only when a sword is tempered does it retain its edge and durability. The word temper also can refer to a person’s state of mind. When we get angry and lose control, we call it “losing our temper”. The word temperance (related to the word temper) is defined as the moderation of the self, which is also known as virtue.

 

Without being tempered a blade may be sharp, but it is also prone to breaking. Without virtue a person may be strong, but unable to keep that edge.

 

Remember these three basic virtues. While they are not the only virtues in the world, for there are others of a spiritual, moral, ethical, and enlightened nature, these three are a foundation that aids in all greater virtues. These virtues are:

 

Strength – a lack of weakness.

 

Courage – a lack of fear.

 

Confidence – a lack of doubt.

 

Merely applying these should give you an advantage over those who’d rather take the path of least resistance. It’s an advantage that will be necessary in your future…

 

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Meditations on Change – Stacking Your Odds

There are cynical times when we think things will never change. We feel as if we’ll never get our break, because we’ve never had one before, and this is all we know. We imagine that, five or ten years from now, we’ll still be floundering through life without purpose or direction.

 

But if it’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that an event horizon can come without warning. A blogger may keep moderate traffic for years until one random person out of nowhere, linking to their site, makes it all go viral. You may meet a friend’s friend at a bar, who hears you’re looking for work and offers you a job which becomes a career that changes the course of your life. You may be suddenly given the choice to move to a new city, start a new job, and, two years later, you’ll look back with amazement that you’ve come this far, while having never seen it coming.

 

These things happen. And while they might not happen often, and they might be outside of our direct control, there are certainly ways to increase the odds of them happening: meeting new people and new groups, acquiring new skills and being a person with something to offer the world. Every possible connection is a possible opportunity. It’s not as if you’re loading the dice, but you are rolling more often.

 

When you’re young there are few of these opportunities. For example, a young man may send out a dozen applications out of high school, or even college, only to have two or three interviews, let alone job offers. That isn’t much of a choice. The young man may feel confined by his circumstances, and reasonably so. Because he has not lived any other lifetime, he may assume that, well, this is it. This is life: just struggling for a break.

 

However, if that young man were to take the advice above, develop himself a bit, learn a few practical skills and mature a little, then he’ll see more opportunities almost coming out of nowhere. For example, sending out a dozen applications may come multiple interviews and multiple job offers. Instead of being a mere candidate trying to sell himself to a company, he can flip the script so that he interviews the company to see if it’s worth his time. Now he has choice, agency, overcoming a past where his decisions were reduced to a handful.

 

All these choices create alternate and divergent realities, which further diverge with each choice (assuming, for the moment, that all our choices aren’t an illusion). It’s important to internalize this notion: that these branching paths are happening and well within our grasp. Nothing is static. Nothing is determined. You are not stuck.

 

Two years ago, I was given a choice to leave my home, my job, my friends and start anew across the country. I chose to go. What followed were a plethora of more choices: where to live, where to work, what to do and who to meet. In reality, I had those choices at home as well, but I never took advantage of them. Now, it’s as if I can benches unfolding, ever diverging along the path, potentialities that I had never realized before.

 

After a fraction of a lifetime filled with frustration, many of us in the red pill world retroactively look at our past choices along our previous path, wondering what life would be like had we taken the pill sooner, done things differently, or corrected our mistakes before they ever happened.

 

Sometimes I too wonder: what if I had joined the Navy out of high school? What if I had instead gone for a degree in engineering or chemistry rather than the soft, mushy science of psychology? What if I hadn’t given up my instrument, or chosen to be an aircraft refueler over a service technician? Where would I be and who would I be?

 

Would those worlds be better than this one? There’s no way to know. If I had joined the Navy then I could have very well married a succubus who would have divorced me and taken my military retirement. Or maybe not. If I had gone into chemistry then I might have stayed in the blue pill world, failed with women, and liked The Big Bang Theory. Or maybe not. The hypotheticals can cut both ways.

 

At best, that kind of thinking is a fantasy, can be a fun fantasy, but ultimately a pointless one. At worst, you can force upon yourself unnecessary regret, and further paralyze you when you come to another junction, because you’re so afraid of making a “bad” decision again. Don’t lose yourself in the musings of a fictional alternate past, because it is both past, and fiction.

 

I might have made a “mistake” in choosing psychology over chemistry, but with enough work I have been able to salvage a good life with my intelligence and my ability regardless. Any man can turn a misfortune into an opportunity. A man with sufficient mastery can sway those odds in his favor. A man with an eye to the possible will see potential everywhere. With all three the chaos of life becomes navigable.

 

Through his journey, remember that it isn’t important that you capture the “best” of all possible worlds, because you will never find it. All that matters is that the world you’ve chosen is a satisfying one.

 

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Legal Protection for Men – How you can CYA

Any number of men can tell you stories of how the law was turned against them, when perhaps an argument turned into an arrest, when someone was falsely accused, or when he just met the wrong cop at the wrong time. The sad truth is that these days there is an increasing need to cover one’s ass. While this isn’t a silver bullet, it is some decent legal armor:

 

Legal Shield is a subscription-based service that acts like legal AAA. You and a handful of people in your state collectively pay a law firm to represent you all. That firm then provides you with a litany of free legal services with an extra 25% discount on attorney fees for things not covered for free under the policy.

 

Here’s just a snapshot (more free services can be found HERE):

 

  • Free advice – You can ask any legal question as many times as you like for free. Give them a call, leave a message, and, after doing a little research, an attorney will give you a call back with the answer for no charge. Now, instead of going to reddit for advice on whatever, you can call a lawyer who will give you actual bona fide legal counsel.
  • Free 24/7 Emergency Attorney Service – A separate emergency line can put you in contact with an attorney right at that moment. We all know we need to exercise our rights. Problem is, exercising them a little too vigorously makes you look like a punk with a chip on your shoulder or that you have something to hide. Many times it can work against you. However, having an attorney talk to the cops means you’ll be taken seriously.
  • Free Contract Review – About to sign a lease or service contract? Your attorneys can take a look at a contract up to 15 pages for free, scanning it for loopholes and pitfalls that might cost you a lot of money in the future.
  • FREE UNCONTESTED DIVORCE – You get free uncontested divorce with Legal Shield. Let’s say you go to your beloved partner and say, “Look, honey, we can each blow ten grand fighting this thing or we can settle on something we both like and be done with it without wasting any time and money. Sound good?” Not everyone will be brought to reason with such a bargain. Some will figure they can gamble and win, but I’m sure others will be willing to sit down and negotiate a cease-fire if they know doing so will cost them nothing.
  • Traffic Court Appearances – Attorneys will go to traffic court for you and try to settle a ticket. Sometimes, they can get it thrown out. Not only that, but let’s say you’re driving out of state and smoky pulls you for going 8 over. You’ve got a ticket that you can’t dispute because you’ll be a thousand miles away by Monday. The Legal Shield attorneys in that state will go to court on your behalf and settle it without you having to miss work.

 

There are plenty of other benefits and free stuff that I just don’t have the time to cover here, so take a look for yourself.

 

A family policy usually runs less than $20 a month, depending on the state, or province if you’re in Canada (except Saskatchewan). That same policy covers:

  • You
  • Your live-in partner (married or unmarried makes no difference)
  • Your children
  • Your kids in college up to age 26
  • And any handicapped dependent children regardless of age.

 

If you’re a father with a teenager that’s just about to start driving, then, dude, what are you waiting for?

 

If you’re an old guy then you’ll need a will (it’s free).

 

If you’re a young guy in college, ESPECIALLY IF YOU’RE A YOUNG GUY IN COLLEGE, then you’ll need to stay out of trouble and protect yourself from unforeseen legal traps. REMEMBER: The internal judicial system in a college is NOT a criminal hearing but you would be a total and complete fool to go in without an attorney by your side if you’re facing sufficient heat.

 

There really isn’t an excuse one can give to say they’re immune from legal risk, for even Lawyers can’t specialize in everything.

 

With all that in mind, there are some limitations. Legal Shield mainly focuses on civil cases, specifically defending you from legal hazards. It isn’t supposed to get you out of jail for robbing a liquor store. That’s a criminal matter. Yeah, you do get the 25% off an attorney for criminal matters too, but don’t expect your law firm to treat you as a charity case. Also, don’t speed through a red light on your way home and then sign up for the policy, it isn’t retroactive. Free uncontested divorce activates after 90 days.

 

Still not sure? Here are some reviews from consumer affairsyelp, and the Better Business Bureau.

 

Closing thoughts:

 

I didn’t seek out Legal Shield because I had a divorce on my hands or problems with my HOA. After hearing about it, the first thing that came to my mind were the many stories I had heard from you all within the sphere, some about an innocent guy that got hauled off because his wife or girlfriend beat him, or others where a kid got kicked out of college because his ex-girlfriend reported him for harassment six months after the fact (yet there was no police report filed). There’s a wellspring of stories on reddit and other forums with similar themes. You don’t have to look far.

 

I’m confident that many of you guys will find a value to Legal Shield, hence why I wanted to let you know. If you’re interested then check out my other website. There’s more free stuff and information that I just didn’t have the space to cover here.

What I Learned Doing Blue-Collar Work

I never intended to be a blue collar guy. I came fresh out of college with a degree and went right into retail. Did that for a few years. Delivered pizzas. Stocked shelves. It wasn’t glamorous in any respect, hence why I recommend that people get out of retail.

 

I fell into the position of service technician without seeking it out. I started as a warehouse guy, but within two months I had my own truck.

 

Working essentially as a repairman has made me appreciate all the grunt work that men do to keep society going. I see fellow repairmen, HCAV guys, plumbers and electricians as brothers. Our work isn’t appreciated, but it is fulfilling in the sense that it makes us different than the rest.

 

Problem solving and critical thinking.

 

We’ve all played puzzle games in one form or another. Being a mechanic is living a real-world puzzle game. Human systems have a certain logic to them. When something goes wrong with those systems, you have to follow cause and effect, using some experimentation to work forward from the beginning, and work back from the end, in order to isolate the problem. Once you understand how a system functions, further manipulating that system becomes a lot easier. Doing this day in and day out has allowed me to make faster connections at solving problems. This skill doesn’t merely apply to my job, but has expanded to other areas in my life.

 

The reason many of us feel anxiety when something goes wrong is because the problem exists in the unknown. The repair could be trivial or monumental, and we can’t tell the difference. Not knowing which is thus a source of great anxiety. However, once you understand that whatever is broken is simply part of a orderly human system then the question isn’t “what’s wrong?” but “okay, I know what’s wrong, so how do I go about fixing it?” Now you’re talking tactics.

 

 

Keen observation and intuition.

 

Active experimentation also encourages keen observational skills, because you have to recognize what’s wrong, what you’ve changed, and the results of that change. You don’t typically have a metric or numbers by which to judge, so recognizing changes relies on your intuition.

 

Things typically have a functional baseline, and you’ll notice it the more you work with operating equipment. Once you have an intuitive sense of that baseline you can almost instinctually feel when something is off. When your car doesn’t sound right, you notice.

 

This observational skill isn’t just tied to the realm of the mechanical. I’ve begun to judge plans before they’re executed because I can see the critical flaw before it happens.

 

Many people lack this skill because their default setting is to glide through life without a thought as to how they would handle a problem. When something does come up (always out of the blue), they pass on the issue to someone else or go running for help. Obviously, this is a manly thing to do.

 

Isolating a problem is 80% toward fixing it.

 

Most of life’s problems, whether they are personal or mechanical, involve just finding out where the issue is located. A thousand little things could make a car stop running, and one little thing can have a thousand different signals. Many have pushed off toward self-improvement only to stumble because they haven’t isolated the problem. Getting close isn’t going produce a permanent solution. You need to hit the bull’s eye.

 

Sometimes that target will be glaringly obvious. Other times it is more obscure. But if you were to truly find it, whether that be a personality flaw or vapor lock, then most of the hard work has already been done.

 

You can’t always ask for help.

 

Public education is shit in many respects, but one in particular is that it conditions people to immediately ask for help when they stumble. If you can’t work out a math problem, you go to the teacher. When you’re unsure of something, you’re supposed to ask for clarification. There’s no requirement that you figure stuff out for yourself.

 

In the real world, there are often times when you’re left completely to your own devices. I’ve been nearly stranded in the mountains with nothing to rely on but my own creativity. Being forced in a situation that you can’t leave means you start to gain a sense of alternatives that you never would have considered before.

 

If there’s a will, there’s a way. It didn’t realize the truth in that statement until I had no escape route.

 

Physical morphology.

 

This one will come off left field but, I can usually tell if a guy picks up a wrench or a dumbbell at the start of each day. Guys at the gym have a cleaner physique with larger biceps and pectorals. Guys whose work is a workout – like craftsmen, builders, roustabouts, etc. – usually have wider shoulders and larger forearms instead of biceps and pectorals.

 

The gym is a controlled environment where you can isolate muscle groups so that you can craft a certain physique, but in doing so you generally use muscles that aren’t utilized in practical work. For instance, last week I had to reach up into a three inch gap in a ceiling, between an air duct and an I-beam, to cut some copper piping with a rotating cutter. Next, I had to ream and sand the ends of the pipe before attaching a compression fitting on each. This required me to hold my hands over my head and turn, rather than lift. I had to pull piping out from behind the ducts, then had to hammer them into the studs. There is no way in hell any gym equipment could replicate that kind of workout.

 

Awkward angles and bends are par for the course in my profession, where lifting isn’t so neat and clean like in the gym. In the real world, there aren’t always places where you can brace yourself. You end up having to use many different muscles, some for lifting and others just for balance.

 

Closing Thoughts

 

I owe a lot to the company that took this college graduate on the payroll with no mechanical experience and made him a service tech. It was tough getting into the mindset, but the skills I’ve picked up have given me a lot of ancillary benefits, not just in mechanical ability but also in how I approach the various hurdles of life. Realizing that things can be done, that there is a solution and a way to approach almost anything has demolished many mental barriers that once held me back.

 

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Learn By Doing

Knowledge gained through firsthand experience and experimentation is going to be far more potent than anything you could read in a textbook or blog. In fact, your brain is wired so that you’ll likely forget these words I’m writing only minutes after reading them. You likely can’t even remember the exact phrasing of the previous sentence. Read it again.

 

However, your brain is structured to link cause and effect, to analyze, and to conceptualize solutions.

 

The problem is we live in a culture that has completely removed any opportunity which allows you to engage in independent learning. Starting in preschool, we are put into classrooms that are insulated from the real world and its experiences, classrooms that are so safe as to not allow for experimentation and observation, where we are instead are told, not shown, the supposed facts and figures of the world. This state continued throughout elementary/primary school, high school, going into college and grad school.

 

Even during the brief glimpses outside the classroom, many guys were told to disregard their personal experiences because they were “anecdotal”, said the academics. (Not all X are like that. You can’t generalize. People are individuals.)

 

It is no surprise then that many new and younger men treat the manosphere as another classroom, where it’s all about learning and comparing notes and not actually walking outside. This is a trend I’ve noticed on Reddit more than anywhere else, where the typical 18-21 year old starts out their sentence with “I’ve been lurking here a while, lifting, reading up on TRP [etc].”

 

Finding out the general and basic information isn’t a problem, and should be encouraged, but our brains have been conditioned by the education system to seek knowledge by third-hand accounts rather than seeing it for yourself. The unconscious expectation is that being passive learner for long enough will eventually get you to the point where you’re an expert, and now finally ready to step outside. You’ve graduated, here’s your diploma, now go do the thing. Why couldn’t I have learned while doing the thing? You weren’t ready.

 

“Being ready” never truly comes because you’ve never gone outside that comfort zone to know if it’s true. You have no way to compare. In the meantime, you learn in perpetuity while nothing gets done.

 

But it wasn’t always this way. Men didn’t have to learn by sitting around and absorbing knowledge like quiet, passive sponges. Many of our grandfathers were done with school by age ten or twelve and earned their skills via apprenticeship. Staying in school past one’s twenties was an exception to the rule. Learning on the job was par for the course in those days, and arguably led to a populace with greater practical skills than today. Part of the learning process comes from taking risks, making mistakes, and learning from them. Conventional schooling has removed those necessary experiences. You need to be able to observe your failure.

 

If you want to become a better writer, because you have all these stories in your head, then put down the writing books and just start writing. If you want to be a better conversationalist then get a job as a salesman or customer service, or some other environment which forces you to talk to people. Me? I’ve gone down both of those paths, and now I’m in the first stages of a science project. How am I doing it? With a book in one hand and a wrench in the other.

 

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The Hurdle is Lower Than You Think

I said here that to gain confidence requires competence in something. That means finding something you’re good at, whether that’s playing the guitar or rock climbing. Find that thing, and do it. Not only is it important to develop skills for confidence sake, but to also because some skills transfer to other aspects of your life. For example, improving in public speaking lends a hand to seduction techniques, and visa versa. Learning to fix an appliance gives you the knowhow and confidence to repair other things.

 

You might be hesitant to act because you have no idea how to start, or the mountain before you seems too great. Before you jump in to learning something new, the gap between what you know and what you’d like to know is intimidating, so much that it might put off some people from trying altogether.

 

But so what? Everyone started with knowing nothing about everything. Here’s the thing: the climb isn’t nearly as difficult as it seems from the bottom.

 

You start knowing nothing, but if you’re able to learn the basic 10% of the subject, you are now prepared to learn the next 20%, which in mastering allows you learn the next 30%, and from there allows you to scale up to 90% completion. The ability to acquire knowledge increases as you acquire more knowledge. The path is exponential, to a point. The first 10% and the last 10% of any endeavor will usually be the longest and most difficult. The former is difficult because you know nothing going in and the groundwork needs to be done. The latter is difficult because you are fine-tuning your expertise. Everything in between is an escalating scale that incorporates things you already know with new ideas and experimentation.

 

Think of it like the progression of a video game. You must first understand the basic mechanics and rules. When that is complete, you use those mechanics in ever more complex scenarios, adding more tools at every level. Once you get to the endgame, having mastered all the mechanics and having been through most every environment with those mechanics, you are now tasked with using radically different strategies against other thinking humans.

 

Composers, musicians, actors, writers and craftsmen all go through similar curves.

 

In my case, I knew nothing about writing years ago except how to do basic grammar, and even that was a stretch. But once I learned the basics, I could see the deeper machinations of the craft – structure, pacing, etc – which allowed me to learn more. To sit me down beforehand and tell me all I’d have to eventually know would have overwhelmed me enough to quit.

 

One of the best ways to kill your motivation is to stack the hurdles on top of each other when, in reality, they are lined up behind each other. Don’t psych yourself out by putting all the steps together in one. Internalize that whatever you seek to master is merely a progression.

 

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Repost: Opponent Vs Enemy

These next few weeks will be hectic as I put the finishing touches on my next book. Several blog posts are finished, but their release depends on other coinciding events.

 

In the meantime, there is another post way back in the archives that I wrote when I just started blogging. Thus, it has been lost to the many new readers I’ve acquired over the last year and a half. It is something I want to share because, while the nature of online discourse hasn’t really changed in that time, the new influx of Social Justice is increasing the volume of our detractors. Sometimes, it’s hard to differentiate between ally and antagonist, or what tactics to use against them.

 

The distinguishing factor between the people set against you is verifying that they are an opponent or an enemy, for there is a difference between the two.

 

When I think of the word opponent, I imagine someone in a gi on the other side of the mat, about to kick my ass. They stand in my way but they don’t necessarily want to kill me, and I don’t necessarily want to kill them. We both come to the conflict with some degree of understanding of why we’re here – to test our abilities, or even to pick up some more tricks. There are ground rules, some spoken or unspoken, that we don’t cross certain lines out of respect and we are allowed to tap-out, breaking the conflict without fear of being run down and obliterated.

 

They aren’t seeking my complete destruction, and I’m not intending to do the same. I might not even want to eliminate an opponent because the continual sparring will make sure my strategy is precise, or to the contrary that my weaknesses will be revealed so that I may correct them. Likewise, I do the same for my opponent. This is the dialectic that is created between antagonizing beliefs. Each side evolves against one another, and perhaps a greater truth or experience is found as a result of the struggle.

 

The word enemy, however, comes with an entirely different connotation. When I think of an enemy, I image a horde of barbarians breaking through the gates and slaughtering everything in their path. They don’t lay down rules because mutual combat isn’t their intent. They don’t look to debate. They don’t entertain the idea they’re wrong. They don’t let you retreat, and should you submit they will only try to crush you further.

 

Online it may be hard to separate the two, but it’s important that you scrutinize your antagonist’s intent to sort out which is which. You don’t want to misconstrue an enemy for an opponent because they will steamroll over your patience and decorum. Similarly, you don’t want to mistake an opponent for an enemy, otherwise you run the risk of using the rhetorical nukes on a soft target.

 

At one time, I had civil discussions with Marxists and even some outright Communists. They saw things that I didn’t; I saw things that they didn’t, and by the end we left it at that, retiring to our own domains of the internet without needing to throw bricks or incite a mob. I don’t want to destroy the people I disagree with politically because they may have a point. It was the crucible of disagreement, after all, which brought me to where I am today.

 

When criticism appeared on my blog, I took it in stride because most people make it clear – unconsciously – that they’re opponents, not enemies. Never have I seen a frothing barbarian try to tear this place down.

 

In the past year, I have seen clashes in here in the ‘sphere and, while we all have differing opinions on how to measure success and what we should value, no sect of the manosphere has ever actively pursued the destruction of all others. Despite the differences in the tradcons, MRAs, MGTOW’s or whatever acronym you subscribe to, there is no internal warfare, just sparring matches. That is something that we need to remember when these clashes happen. Here, we’re not out to defend our very lives from fellow travelers. That is something that I cannot say for our ideological opposites in the blue pill sector.

 

In this same year, I’ve seen a raise of enemies through events like GamerGate, and recently with the round of Hugo nominations. Here we see different behavior than what should normally come from simple disagreements: absolute thinking desiring complete submission. I.E. the desires of an enemy.

 

In this original post, I stated that Political Correctness is an enemy because it treats all people as potential enemies in its effort to purge all forms of sexism, racism, discrimination, privilege and oppression from society, no exceptions. Anyone who holds those beliefs or has any sort of privilege is to be attacked and shamed without respite until PC’s complete and total domination reigns supreme. There is no middle ground and there are no bystanders in the eyes of Political Correctness. There is no room for compromise or discussion.

 

However, Political Correctness is merely a thought bubble that cannot carry out its own will. It has no physical form, rather it is people who give action to these ideas, and it is people that we need to be mindful of. The particular people who have risen this past year have been Social Justice Warriors. I’m not sure what new University curriculum was approved, but if GamerGate and the increasing fury of the Tumblrists and Twitteristas is any indication, someone is teaching them to be enemies rather than opponents.

 

They can’t sit by and just let games be games. They won’t even let the privileged have their own territory within gaming because if one game, just one, was not up to par with their particular standards then it is torn apart by outrage. Again, is that the behavior of an opponent or an enemy?

 

 

That thinking right there is a far cry from the disagreements we behold within the ‘sphere. Can a Social Justice Warrior honestly admit that, if given the chance, would they leave their opponents alone or is every pizza restaurant that doesn’t agree to be burned to the ground? Is any state with any law slightly against the oppressed supposed to now be boycotted? Similarly, would they allow other authors that don’t share their views onto the Hugo slate without a tantrum, saying to themselves “well, better luck next time”?

 

The answer is no. If they could console themselves through defeat or if they could tolerate the world as it is, maybe even seeing the good within it, then they wouldn’t be Social Justice Warriors. They could have compromised a long time ago and perhaps found a nice middle ground to occupy, but because everyone else has compromised with them they feel entitled to dictate the ways of the world, and not just dictate but to dominate completely. Their tactics make it quite clear that they are ideological enemies.

 

How do you deal with ideological enemies? First, you don’t treat them as opponents. Ideological opponents are granted respect and manners because the debate is mutual. With opponents you and they are allowed to retreat. Once you do, there is an understanding that you don’t cross into their territory, whether that be a spot on the Earth or a server on the web, and they don’t disturb yours.

 

Because enemies aren’t inclined to do this, you shouldn’t feel the responsibility to do it for them. Taking the moral high ground doesn’t help you when the barbarians pile on their assault. Purposefully handicapping yourself against a rabid enemy doesn’t bode well for you. Probably the best way to combat enemies is to do to them exactly what they do to you. GamerGate and the recent Hugo nominations have found that strategy to work. Turn their tactics back on them, show them the pressure of their own wrath. Feel free to let lose the rhetorical nukes. Ridicule and make fun of them, if you wish. Don’t feel sympathetic to people who feel no sympathy toward you, who would crush you if they had the choice, and who, if they ruled, would not let people simply live and let live.

 

Throughout the process, just remember to correctly identify: opponent or enemy.

 

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