Tall Privilege

So disclaimer: some are going to take this the wrong way. You’ll think I’m whining, complaining, whatever. I’m not. Reserve judgment to the end. This post isn’t going where you think it’s going.

 

If you have any experience in the real world then you can see that tall people have certain unearned advantages over shorter people, ones that don’t just extend to being able to reach the top shelf at the grocery store. Taller individuals come with bigger frames that can accommodate greater weight and strength. The same training regimen will yield different results for a tall guy vs a short guy. No matter how strong a short guy can get, a tall guy can eclipse him with enough effort. In the dating market, women prefer tall dudes, at least guys that are taller than them. Even girls of below average female height prefer guys of above average male height. This gives tall men their pick of virtually every woman and leaves short men trying to capture the short female demographic.

 

 

It doesn’t just stop at dating women either. People generally like tall people more than shorties. Something about looking up gives the impression of authority and dominance. A charismatic tall man can clear the lot selling pretty much anything thanks in part to his stature. He’s more likely to be hired in blue collar jobs, whereas a short guy will be met with skepticism if his job requires lifting of any kind. No tall man has to deal with the awkward question from a prospective employer if he can even do the work. For him, it’s assumed outright.

 

No one mistakes a tall guy for being under age. No one assumes that a tall guy has a complex the way short men do. There are clothing stores that cater to big and tall men, but good luck trying to find a pair of jeans with an inseam shorter than 30in.

 

All of these advantages are unearned privileges granted to a person born a certain way simply because of social perception in regards to height. Tall Privilege is a thing that actually exists, and it is not fair for underprivileged shorter men, like myself. I am about 5ft 7in (1.70 meters for the rest of the world), and because of that there are some things that I will not accomplish because of my height. But you know what? That’s okay.

 

And here is where we veer off course. No, we’re not going to the pity party, as you might expect.

 

There are two ways my ego can handle this basic fact of reality. The first is the road to ruin, the other is the road of acceptance.

 

I could start a new career as a Tall Privilege Activist by going on the internet and decrying the unjust oppression that afflicts short people while also demanding that the tall check their unearned privilege. My main goal would be to change social perceptions of short people in an attempt to make things fair and just, for if we lived in a world that didn’t see height and just treated people like individuals, there would be no Napoleon complex and the world would be a better place. That would be my utopian cause, my holy crusade, to make everything equal between the talls and the shorts.

 

Of course, I would never succeed at this. Changing social consciousness cannot be done by one man, and I would waste a great many years trying to get society to change in my favor. However, I could gather thousands of followers and spend decades getting into academia to teach the new field of Physiological Privilege and still not eradicate this bias because all the complaining and navel gazing in the world won’t change people in their day to day lives. All that effort would ultimately be a waste.

 

And would all that activism make me a better person? No. I would still be short. Nothing can change that. Only now, I would be made bitter by my constant shaming of others and demanding of them to “check their tall privilege”. I would see staturism everywhere and every instance would make me bitter and angry. Broadcasting this crusade to the world would not gain me acceptance, but would instead reveal to the world my insecurities. Who would take on a friend or lover with that kind of baggage? If anything, I would be reinforcing the negative stereotype that short people have such complexes about their height, which would harm, not help, other shorties who are comfortable with their stature. Instead of finding serenity in acceptance, I would only obsess over the slight handicap I was born with and make it my identity.

 

The path of activism and awareness – of changing everyone else to meet your ideal and exploding with rage at those that don’t – will only lead to a life wasted and saturated in negativity.

 

But there is a second path: acceptance.

 

I’m short, and I can’t help being short. The rational response is to understand that I can’t change my height, nor can I change the world, but there are many other things about myself that I can change. I can focus on being a good conversationalist. I can work on my mind and body. I can try my best to be a good human being so that these things put together make up for my height to the point where I and others forget just how short I am. The very act of trying to better one’s self will turn you into a positive person because the accomplishment you feel when you finally succeed beats the handicap that held you back. Yes, in the end Tall Privilege would still exist, but it would have no affect on me.

 

 

There is wisdom in not only understanding what you can and can’t change, but what you should and shouldn’t change. I can’t fault women for liking what they like. I can’t hate my employer for being skeptical of my lifting ability (to which I proved their preconceptions wrong). I can’t be a happy, moral person while shaming tall people for being something they didn’t choose and cannot possibly give up.

 

The actual path to happiness is to understand that I was born with a cross to bear, just like everyone else, and that my goal is to ascend past my shortcomings.

 

Lol.

12 thoughts on “Tall Privilege

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  2. You are 100% right and not just being tall, but add being good looking and you will bubble right to the top of society. However unless you have the social skills and intellect, you may fall just as fast as your rise. Athletes, and movie stars are prime examples. In my mind being a “suckcess” in our society is not really winning anyway. The people who win are the ones with large successful familes and are often poor.

    There are so many things about life that is unfair that to focus on them leads to problems. I am very tall, but often envy shorter people who can fit in cars and airplanes and can buy clothes at good will or Walmart. In dealing with short people I don’t bully them or think them inferior. It seems to me most people have problems and as you say we all have to learn to deal with the hand we are dealt.

    I believe that short people are actually the future look of mankind. We have been getting shorter on average for thousands of years and this will continue as our population increases and we focus on rationing living, food and energy. The only way the tall genes will win is if civilization collapses and even this is no guarantee as environment will dictate height.

    RRR

  3. I’ve got some comments for you.

    You stated: “So disclaimer: some are going to take this the wrong way. You’ll think I’m whining, complaining, whatever.”
    You don’t have to issue disclaimers. Short people and short men in particular are victims. Stand up straight and admit it is my advice.

    You stated: “If you have any experience in the real world then you know the glaringly obvious observation that tall people have certain unearned advantages over shorter people, ones that don’t just extend to being able to reach the top shelf at the grocery store.”
    Total agreement. No argument. And it is glaringly obvious that they have “unearned privileges”.

    You stated: “The actual path to happiness is to understand that I was born with a cross to bear, just like everyone else, and I should ascend past my shortcomings.

    Lol.

    I’m not Lol. And you shouldn’t either.

    You stated: “No one mistakes a tall guy for being under age. No one assumes that a tall guy has a complex the way short men do. There are stores specifically catering to big and tall men, but good luck trying to find a pair of jeans with an inseam shorter than 30in.”
    Beautiful.

    You stated: “And even if I were to succeed, I would not be a better person. I would still be short.”
    That indicates to me self-hate based on height. You would degrade yourself for your efforts and you “would not be a better person” in spite of your efforts. You would still be short. This is self-hate.

    You stated: ” Ultimately, there are good reasons why tall people get the advantages they do. To try and erase those justifications would end in a lobotomy of people’s mental faculties. I can’t fault women for liking what they like. I can’t hate my employer for being skeptical of my lifting ability (to which I proved their preconceptions wrong). I can’t be a happy, moral person while shaming tall people for being something they didn’t choose and cannot possibly give up.”
    This is more self-hate. The fact of the matter is that the Short are shamed, the Short are discriminated against, The Short are victims, The Short get paid less for doing the same work, The short get harassed for BEING Short, etc. and yet you’re overly concerned about “shaming tall people”. I realize that you’re partly cognizant of heightism. But it appears to me that you’re more than willing to acquiesce to it in favor of Tallers, because you seem to think that there’s nothing you can do about your height and that it is – the way I see it – The Will of God – that you have this “cross to bear”. Would it hurt you to think in more in terms of Height Bigotry as a social issue that needs to be combated?

    Thanks,

    Joe
    webmaster: http://www.supportfortheshort.org
    webmaster@supportfortheshort.org

    • Ok so here’s the deal. I am a 4’11” male. I recently retired from the military where I jumped out of airplanes, carried lots of weight on my back for long distances and generally did more than most men of any stature will do. I’m successful, happy, and have been married for 23 years. Before I got married I was never particularly lonely. Of course I ran into the “oh my god I like TALLER men!” But truthfully I met just as many that dug my size.
      And because of my size I have strived to do more and accomplished more than most ever will. I’m ok with it. I haven’t accepted it. I’ve embraced it. Doesn’t hurt that I’m a human tripod.

    • “No matter how strong a short guy can get, a tall guy can eclipse him with enough effort.”

      Take your shitty eugenics back to the 1950s.

      This isn’t true, and making societal assumptions based on your lack of education just makes you look hollow and narcissistic.

  4. Eh… I’m not a big fan of blanket statements like this: “The same training regimen will yield different results for a tall guy vs a short guy. No matter how strong a short guy can get, a tall guy can eclipse him with enough effort.”

    Many tall guys have smaller frames than short men. Excerpt from here: http://nattyornot.com/bodybuilding-muscle-is-your-frame-small-or-big/

    “When it comes to bodybuilding, being tall does not mean that you have a large frame by default. It just means that you have long bones. There are many people who are quite tall, but have thin bones small in diameter. There are many people who were taller than Mike Tyson and yet competed in much lower weight classes. Tyson had the skeleton to box in the heavyweight division and could take a ton of punches from very big guys. A popular example of a tall guy with thiner bone structure would be Antonio Margarito. At 5’11” he competed in the 150 lbs class while Tyson was a heavyweight at 5’10”. Bone structure also plays a role in powerlifting and Olympic weightlifting. The popular powerlifter Ed Coan has a super thick bone structure, but is also quite short. This gives him enormous advantage over people who are tall and have thin bones. Coan is a perfect representative of good genetics which found the right place to shine.”

    • That’s really interesting and something I hadn’t considered. Big, lanky guys come with longer bones and it makes sense that they can be more fragile. I wonder what would happen if you pitted a short, stocky guy against a tall guy in a competition of G-forces, like what pilots or race car drivers endure. I’m confident that the shorter man would come out on top.

  5. This blog made me think of my early 20’s, as I was rejected by the foxes who chased after the Alfa males and showed no more interest in me than glancing at a blade of grass next to the highway traveling at 75 MPH. And this made me think about my own personal experiences with tall women, a slightly different story from this blog, but same result due to being a Beta male.

    One 6’ tall girl, in a gym, talked to me with such a look of disinterested she couldn’t have looked or acted more uninterested if she had wanted to. I approached another, who I estimated being 5 foot 9 or 10 inches. She got angry with me for even asking her out and stuck her finger in my face informing me she didn’t date shorter men. On line, I met a girl 5’11”, and we worked out together once in my apartment complex gym, after that she did not return my two phone calls, there could be others, too, I just don’t remember them all. Now, you may say the rejections were because of my looks, that could be true, but as I approached girls closer to my height, my success rate went way up.

    This blog also made me think about the rejections by tall girls, and it angered me, but not at the time the rejection. Only years later, when I actually tallied them up, did I get angry. I was rejected not because I was fat, bald, ugly, deformed or had a rotten personality. No. The reason I was rejected by all of these women was my height. Not a one even bothered to put forth the effort to get to know me much less date me.

    I did date three women who were significantly taller than me, two at 5’11” and one at 5’10”. (I am 5’8”) And all three happened to be 32 years of age, which is more than a coincidence and a tie in with this blog. No doubt all three wanted a tall Alfa male, and lost, so a safe stable Beta male was the next best thing in their 30’s, for I certainly didn’t grow any taller and I doubt I got better looking. These women were past their prime and worried. I was in my late 30’s, at this time of my life, after being married for 10 years. It was also at this time, I could easily date younger women, and I did. When I was 38, my first girlfriend was 27, the next was 27 and the next was 24 who became my second wife. I never dated with any intent of marrying a woman my age. Younger women had no issue with me dating them, and I certainly had no issue dating them. I remember going to singles events and seeing very pretty women, who were my age, who I know 15 years earlier would not have given me the time of day. And even now, they may have looked better than myself, but now it was me who had no interest in approaching them. I did not want to take time and money away from pursuing younger women. Why go old, when I could go young? I was amazed how the dating game changed in my favor. And I used it to my advantage, just as women had done years earlier.

    I am now married and have 4 sons. I have 3 degrees, and I have co-authored 2 US patents. I could have provided a good life to any girl. I wanted a taller girl because of the physical turn on and to for fill one of my desires, yet not one single tall girl (in her 20’s) gave me a chance. I was turned down consistently and without a second thought. (Maybe due to the Alfa male fascination) So, if you find yourself in your late 20’s or early 30’s with no prospect of a husband or children in the immediate future, you have no one to blame but yourself. There were men like me, who wanted a leggy female, but they, like me, were never accorded the opportunity. (This also applies to average height women, too) And the reality is that the vast majority of tall women will not even consider a shorter man (and Beta males) until it is too late. You would think it would be obvious that if you included shorter males (and Beta males) in your suitor selection, your odds would increase of finding a mate. There are a lot more short and medium height males than there are taller ones. So my advice would be to accept the advances of all men and get to know them. I, who would have relished the opportunity of having curvy broad hips and a tapered waist to hold all night and to make love to into the early hours of the morning, was never, not once, even given a chance to start a relationship. Throw away the yardstick, for you may find someone like me, who would love to share his life and love with a tall girl.

    By the way, another tie in with this article and be found at this web site.
    http://shortguycentral.com/P-57/beware-of-the-reformed-heightist-woman
    This writer tell about his rejections in his 20’s by women only to find that women now chased after him, in spite of his height, now he is in his early 30’s. He warns of the dangers of the “Reformed Heightest Woman” who are desperate after wasting their life chasing the Alfa male and now want a stable Beta with a steady pay-check.

    Here is anther on how women who found the Mr. Average (Beta Males) were worth nothing in their 20’s and now that these women are in their 30’s can’t buy a date, even from the Beta Males

    Why women lose in the dating game
    http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/why-women-lose-the-dating-game-20120421-1xdn0.html
    During their 20s, women compete for the most highly desirable men, the Mr Bigs. Many will readily share a bed with the sporty, attractive, confident men, while ordinary men miss out. As Whiskey puts it at whiskeysplace.wordpress.com: ”Joe Average Beta Male is about as desirable to women as a cold bowl of oatmeal.”

    ”I can’t believe how many men my age are only interested in younger women,” wails Gail, a 34-year-old advertising executive as she describes her first search through men’s profiles on the RSVP internet dating site. She is shocked to find many mid-30s men have set up their profiles to refuse mail from women their own age.

    Talking to many women like her, it’s intriguing how many look back on past relationships where they let good men get away because they weren’t ready. American journalist Kate Bolick wrote recently in The Atlantic about breaking off her three-year relationship with a man she described as ”intelligent, good-looking, loyal and kind”. She acknowledged ”there was no good reason to end things”, yet, at the time, she was convinced something was missing in the relationship. That was 11 years ago. She’s is now 39 and facing grim choices.

  6. There are some parts of your article that I don’t agree with. One is that you overestimate how much a privilege being tall is. I want to highlight this sentence:

    This gives tall men their pick of virtually every woman and leaves short men trying to capture the short female demographic.

    Being tall really does not mean every woman will accept your as a partner. Tall guys can still be ugly, gross, socially inept, boring or be surrounded by a creepy aura, and thus be rejected by women. I think women are not dumb herd animals opening up their legs because of one single attribute in a man. At the same time, there have been so many romantically successful short(er) men in history that we need to acknowledge.

    Being tall is one advantage if you date women, that’s for sure. But it’s one out of many. Although being short can be hard (I know it, because there’ve been times when I have suffered immensely because of my perceived shortness) it’s not comparably to having a real handicap, like being confined to a wheelchair or being blind. And I would say with your height you are just “shortish”.

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